Today I read an article regarding depression and the use of antidepressants to treat this common mental disorder. As a person who has had depression before and during my gyaru/alt fashion journey, and has even tried antidepressants as well, this study shocked me!
These pills (third ranking amongst meds in the US) that commercials promote (in the USA, but not a common finding overseas) and doctors prescribe are to help your brains intake serotonin (happy chemical), but apparently it’s not the lack of it that causes depression.
Will this be a blow to big pharma and the money they make (a whopping 13.4 BILLION!!) off antidepressants?
There have been times when I wanted to interview or do a quick collaboration with a few people/someone when I had a lot on my plate during my undergraduate program.
Cool music or vibe, great... yet there is a road block. The middle man doesn't want me to meet with them, talk to them in person, or doesn't even pass the message along to collab. Or passes other messages or puts words in our mouths instead, creating dissension, distrust and dislike between two people who haven't even gotten to really meet each other to see if they'd click. If you try to talk with that person of interest and vice versa, reality is already skewed and not on your behalf.
So... who gets stuck with the blame of not going through with someone and highlighting some black girl magic or gets a label as being "lazy" or even "difficult"?
Something to consider for other people who may be in a similar situation.
Her ex’s side chick did not stick up for Black Girl that was supposedly going to be exposed in the side chick’s gaming group for being a stripper.
Her ex’s side chick had special time with him and vocalized it over the phone, and he wanted Black Girl to not dump him despite him cheating on her and never making amends.
Her ex’s side chick had other people in a gaming community call her evil despite her NOT being the one cheating on the ex.
Her ex’s side chick doesn’t want her to remember all the times she yelled at her or talked bad about her group’s team members.
Her ex’s side chick thought it was ok to want share used colored contacts.
Her ex’s side chick was never there for her when her mom was dying or when the mom died.
Her ex’s side chick had been by her side for almost ten years.
Her ex’s side chick didn’t want her group to have a space for events. She had to wait YEARS til a new girl and a college mate came into the picture for a collective event.
Her ex’s side chick thought that she should trust a girl that years ago wanted to have sex with him at a fitness center’s jacuzzi behind her back and claimed that she’d never betray a friend when he told her they were sending pix back and forth.
Her ex’s side chick wants her to be crazy so the fact that she remembered her popping up at a location only the ex knew (or anything else that happened that was negative) would just be her making things up. (To spare the side chick’s reputation)
Her ex’s side chick wanted her to be in sex work and not the career she was preparing herself for.
Her ex’s side chick used other people, girls into jfashion etc, to stall her and ruin projects and her reputation.
Her ex’s side chick didn’t like the fact that she graduated from college and the side chick didn’t or didn’t find it important.
The side chick made mention that the girl was too accessible, yet didn't criticize the man for allowing himself to be accessible to other women in a monogamous relationship.
The side chick never helped with resources for the girl, and plundered any new ones away.
The side chick said that she was such a bitch in front of a new girl and a college mate.
The side chick never supported the girl’s projects.
The side chick never advocated for her.
The side chick would tell people at events that the girl was a stripper when she wasn’t
The side chick betrayed the girl’s friend.
The side chick would micromanage the girl’s blog and tell her how to post despite the girl writing and posting for years.
The side chick told her that she wasn’t special.
The side chick never checked up on her when she passed out from a contaminated drink at a work event for geeks and nerds into comics and science fiction and had her items stolen.
The side chick told her there were lots of people investing into her group and that she could come along for the meetings... it never happened and the side chick was always “broke”.
The side chick created a business after the girl originally wanted to take on freelance of the same nature.
The side chick bragged about how many men took her out to dinner.
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What would you do if you were in the girl’s shoes?
Date someone who supports you, your goals, and your accomplishments.
Date someone who appreciates you.
Date someone who doesn’t want you to become more depressed.
Date someone that doesn’t want to have sex with all your friends.
Date someone who can leave the relationship without putting all the blame on you.
Date someone who isn’t going to kiss and tell.
Date someone who isn’t going to cheat on you and tell everyone and their momma that you cheated instead.
Date someone is mature enough to be able to talk out issues in the relationship to resolve them. (Lack of the ability to resolve issues or dismiss them is a sign that they don’t want to change their behaviour and doesn’t care if it affects you. Yes, older men do this too.)
Don’ts
Don’t date (or keep dating) someone who will worsen your depression or anxiety. Its a tactic for them to be able to pull the "my ex is crazy card" and discredit you.
Don’t date someone who will make you feel insecure or enable bad or unhealthy decisions.
Don’t date someone who will only want you back after you caught them cheating but never made efforts to keep you in the first place.
Don’t date someone who thinks it’s ok to have sex with your friends without your knowledge, or discussion of the do’s and donts of an open relationship.
Don’t date someone who thinks its ok to ruin your career or job status so you can't get away or afford the things you need to live.
Don’t date someone who pressures you into a relationship too quickly.
Don’t date someone who shows a lack of interest in you.
Don’t date someone who moves too fast into a relationship. Take it slow.
