A blog dedicated to gajin gyaru fashion, and other forms of Jfashion, alt fashion, and kawaii things.
Wednesday, April 13, 2022
Ponderings on Sowing Distrust
Thursday, February 11, 2021
The Side Girl and the Ex Man
Her ex’s side chick did not stick up for Black Girl that was supposedly going to be exposed in the side chick’s gaming group for being a stripper.
Her ex’s side chick had special time with him and vocalized it over the phone, and he wanted Black Girl to not dump him despite him cheating on her and never making amends.
Her ex’s side chick had other people in a gaming community call her evil despite her NOT being the one cheating on the ex.
Her ex’s side chick doesn’t want her to remember all the times she yelled at her or talked bad about her group’s team members.
Her ex’s side chick thought it was ok to want share used colored contacts.
Her ex’s side chick was never there for her when her mom was dying or when the mom died.
Her ex’s side chick had been by her side for almost ten years.
Her ex’s side chick didn’t want her group to have a space for events. She had to wait YEARS til a new girl and a college mate came into the picture for a collective event.
Her ex’s side chick thought that she should trust a girl that years ago wanted to have sex with him at a fitness center’s jacuzzi behind her back and claimed that she’d never betray a friend when he told her they were sending pix back and forth.
Her ex’s side chick wants her to be crazy so the fact that she remembered her popping up at a location only the ex knew (or anything else that happened that was negative) would just be her making things up. (To spare the side chick’s reputation)
Her ex’s side chick wanted her to be in sex work and not the career she was preparing herself for.
Her ex’s side chick used other people, girls into jfashion etc, to stall her and ruin projects and her reputation.
Her ex’s side chick didn’t like the fact that she graduated from college and the side chick didn’t or didn’t find it important.
The side chick made mention that the girl was too accessible, yet didn't criticize the man for allowing himself to be accessible to other women in a monogamous relationship.
The side chick never helped with resources for the girl, and plundered any new ones away.
The side chick said that she was such a bitch in front of a new girl and a college mate.
The side chick never supported the girl’s projects.
The side chick never advocated for her.
The side chick would tell people at events that the girl was a stripper when she wasn’t
The side chick betrayed the girl’s friend.
The side chick would micromanage the girl’s blog and tell her how to post despite the girl writing and posting for years.
The side chick told her that she wasn’t special.
The side chick never checked up on her when she passed out from a contaminated drink at a work event for geeks and nerds into comics and science fiction and had her items stolen.
The side chick told her there were lots of people investing into her group and that she could come along for the meetings... it never happened and the side chick was always “broke”.
The side chick created a business after the girl originally wanted to take on freelance of the same nature.
The side chick bragged about how many men took her out to dinner.
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What would you do if you were in the girl’s shoes?
Monday, February 8, 2021
Dating advice pt 1
Here is a collection of dating tips.
Do’s:
Date someone who supports you, your goals, and your accomplishments.
Date someone who appreciates you.
Date someone who doesn’t want you to become more depressed.
Date someone that doesn’t want to have sex with all your friends.
Date someone who can leave the relationship without putting all the blame on you.
Date someone who isn’t going to kiss and tell.
Date someone who isn’t going to cheat on you and tell everyone and their momma that you cheated instead.
Date someone is mature enough to be able to talk out issues in the relationship to resolve them. (Lack of the ability to resolve issues or dismiss them is a sign that they don’t want to change their behaviour and doesn’t care if it affects you. Yes, older men do this too.)
Don’ts
Don’t date (or keep dating) someone who will worsen your depression or anxiety. Its a tactic for them to be able to pull the "my ex is crazy card" and discredit you.
Don’t date someone who will make you feel insecure or enable bad or unhealthy decisions.
Don’t date someone who will only want you back after you caught them cheating but never made efforts to keep you in the first place.
Don’t date someone who thinks it’s ok to have sex with your friends without your knowledge, or discussion of the do’s and donts of an open relationship.
Don’t date someone who thinks its ok to ruin your career or job status so you can't get away or afford the things you need to live.
Don’t date someone who pressures you into a relationship too quickly.
Don’t date someone who shows a lack of interest in you.
Don’t date someone who moves too fast into a relationship. Take it slow.
Wednesday, February 3, 2021
Dear Ash Woods
Sunday, August 16, 2020
Graphic Design, Gal, and The Name Game
We picked and choose our font for our logo after deciding on a few names I had came up with for our circle. I made a video in one of my classes to help promote our circle. |
Tuesday, July 24, 2018
Reflections
Ive been coming to terms that when he wanted to include my “gal pals” physically in our relationship, he meant it. I’ve been coming to terms that during the summer of 2010, when I called his phone and a woman picked up and told me that she was busy with him, it could have been a woman he was intimate with despite our relationship being monogamous...or at least me being monogamous to him. (apparently there is a term for this in certain circles.... poly-fuckery. You're not really polyamorous- being honest on who you are seeing, you are forcing someone into dealing with you cheating but "not really'. You're welcome for a new vocab word.)
I’ve come to terms that he was scared he would lose his main chick or whatever he considered me as that summer and only pretended to cry so that I would pity him and take him back. I would not be surprised that when we were making our open relationship agreement (so I could actually go on dates because he didnt want to.... when I could have just blocked his number and went on with my college life... ) that he only wanted to be the one to have physical relations with other women and for me to be ok with that because he was cheating on me through those few years. It was like him being able to do as he pleased while I couldn't even get a kiss from a new suitor. (Unfair much?! )
I have been coming to terms with a nerdy woman blurting out to me that they didn't have cooties to me and that they were most likely alluding to them being intimate with my partner, bringing up conversations of having some Asian guy pay her rent (I had a similar convo of my ex wanting to “move in with me”), or her asking me what “size” of a man I liked and that she didn't prefer “small ones”. WEIRD.
I also am concerned that they were at the clinic I went to when my x blamed me for something (a little before being told that a woman didnt have cooties) . Like , was I being followed there? Was she with my bf at the time when he bitched me out over the phone or something?
Not having the distractions of silly little spats and dealing with all the memories that flood back to me, I just wish I had the answers years ago to avoid working with someone that thinks its ok to do this and smile in my face and try to slip in calling ME a hoe in conversation as if that is empowering me, as if that's what friends/peers/partners in business do.
But to be able to see how a a sexist guy thinks who wanted to be catered to and have a woman pamper him and buy him clothes without even earning that right... to be called Satan for “cheating” by someone who did so willing flirting with Saint Louis and Chicago acquaintances and calling THEM clingy, telling me i should gain weight to not be considered attractive, who went through my phone AND emails yet never offered to show me who he was messaging or calling... thats embarrassing to think that someone will think that some "history" of being together would allow them to continue this behaviour for another round with not even a true apology? lol. hilarious.
Thanks for always thinking of me so much. I've been entertained greatly and enjoyed the attention from all the randos.
Tuesday, March 6, 2018
dear blog
Wednesday, February 8, 2017
Macy's 2017 Bridal Expo
Showcasing gorgeous Demetrios gowns |
Until next time!
Friday, February 3, 2017
Mini Makeup Haul
I went shopping one day, and decided to grab a few things to try out.
I usually use brow pencils for my brows but decided to dip my toe into the magical world of eyebrow makeup! I missed the brow mascara craze back in 2011 or so when some gyaru would use it on their brows.
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Friday, January 27, 2017
Skin Care
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Friday, January 20, 2017
Mini Haul, Another One
Monday, January 16, 2017
Getting Older In A Alternative Fashion Community
(old pic)
As I am getting old and grey, and due to work as well, my style choices has been getting a little more boring! Trying to find decent basics for work functions have preoccupied most of my shopping.
(new pics)
However, I do my best to get a few items for leisure time and events that I can really express myself with.
It also is great that some of my coworkers appreciate dressing against the grain and showcasing your individuality. They help keep me true to myself, and seeking ways to not just stick to a basic pair of jeans and a plain ol' top.
I still incorporate some of my own recent customizations and selfmade items into my wardrobe to fully make my look my own!
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Friday, January 13, 2017
Mini haul
Monday, January 9, 2017
West vs East: Makeup Techniques pt3
Eyebrows
Arched brows on model from popular magazine from Japan |
Straight Brows |
Arched eyebrows from popsugar |
Eyebrow drawing guide just for you! |
Another eyebrow drawing guide! |
Ladies in the east tend to lean on the lines of thick straight brows, creating a softened look for their faces. Softer brows, in shape and colour, are less intimidating than bold, dark and angled brows, and may also correlate with their society's views on how woman should portray themselves.
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Tuesday, January 3, 2017
Goodbye 2016, Hello 2017!
Good evening, loves! I do try to keep my posts early, but, welp, sometimes a late night post will do.
So, 2016 is finally over! To some, its good riddance! To others... its more on the lines of, where DID the time go?! *sweats*
For me, I'd like to hug 2016 or give 'em a playful 'punch' on the shoulder like one would do an old chum. I had a lot of adventures last year, from horseback riding, swimming, and meeting new gals. I felt really good to close the chapter for the previous year.
The Fam! Birthday girl was on fleek! |
Her outfit was too cute!! |
My phone died so I couldn't grab all the photos I wanted for the continuation of new year celebrations!
His "Keep Having a Good Day" series always encourages me to see the good in everyday |
Hugs! |
Styl-lish friends |
so much champagne was poured... |
Party pic stolen from Pandy |
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